How do you murder friendship, kinship or any kind of relationships the fastest way?
Betrayal is the fastest relationship killer. It can manifest in different ways, in different forms, in different acts, in different relationships, in different individuals. How people take advantage of other people for their own benefit at the expense of other people’s feelings, I don’t really understand. What’s worse about it is that, as the saying goes,
“The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.”
Yes, betrayal never comes from our enemies but from our friends, our colleagues, from people we love, from people who mean something to us. I can attest to that.
We all probably have experienced betrayal at least once in our lives. All of us have our own personal Judas perhaps. And when it happens, the sting of the betrayal often leaves us appalled, hurt, broken and maybe clueless and unable how to move forward from that point on. On the other hand, the traitors will deny the act and even convince us that we misunderstood them. Moreover, many of this traitors would even justify their acts of betrayal.
Whatever relationship we have with the person who betrayed us, it often leaves us hurt and wounded deeply. We let our guards down whenever we start to be comfortable with people and we often realize it too late that we shouldn’t have. As I grow in my understanding of relationships of any kind, those who love you or adore you at one point, can or will reject you any other day. People see things from different perspectives and we unintentionally disappoint each other sometimes. It hurts to know that you were betrayed because they can gain more from betraying you rather than staying true to you. Why would anyone do that for momentary benefit or comfort? I don’t know. What I do know though, is that they’ve lost more than they know. They’ve lost more than what they thought they’ve gained.
It’s sad that this had to happen. I probably appear weak to them that they took advantage of it and now I have to be more careful. I can’t be completely open with them anymore in order to protect myself. Nothing ruins a relationship more than the realization that you can’t trust these people any longer. It’s an irreparable harm but something to learn from.