In a perfect world, everyone is nice, cool, caring, mindful. In a perfect world. But then again, we aren’t in a perfect world and imperfections are all around us. There are those whom we just click with right away, some whom we can handle alright, and try as we might, some whom we just don’t care about. And then there are those whom we just don’t get along with, people we just can’t stand and sometimes it’s difficult to know the right way to deal with them.
I’m not quite sure what I’m doing is right but here is how I deal with people I don’t like…
Accepting that I can’t get along with everyone.
The thing is, we definitely aren’t going to like every single person we meet. But not liking someone doesn’t necessarily mean we or them are a bad person. It’s just that we have different opinions or personalities and we just don’t jive. So it’s okay not to like people. The best thing to do, I guess, is just accept it. I don’t need to like everyone (whether at work, in the apartment, etc.) as much as they don’t need to like me, so I’d better go easy on myself. 🙂 I have to accept that I’m not going to like everyone. I can’t change them and they’re probably not trying to be difficult, too.
Identifying what I dislike about the other person.
It’s very important to know what it is exactly we don’t like from a person. So I consider what’s happening and why. It might just be because I don’t like the person because of certain qualities which are socially acceptable but not for me personally and if that’s the case then that is my issue and not the other person’s. In a way, being able to pin-point what puts me off about this person is a way of bettering myself, too.
Releasing the need to be right.
The more I think I am right, the more I struggle dealing with the person I don’t like. So I try to just make my point and walk away. Agree to disagree and try my best not to be judgmental.
Finding common ground.
Sometimes this is difficult but when I look hard enough, I sometimes find some common ground with people I don’t like. It helps to know something we have in common and try to develop it from there instead of focusing on things they do that annoys me.
Checking my expectations.
Sometimes I take a moment to check on myself. I get irritated because the other person doesn’t do what I would do if I were on his situation. Expecting others to do as I’d do almost always leaves me disappointed. We are all different individuals, raised in different ways, believe in different views so we devise ideas and solutions for every situation differently as well. So I guess it’s normal, besides, I also don’t act the way people expect me to all the time either. So I check on my expectations and try to be tolerant of different approaches.
When all else fails, ignore them completely.
Yes. Sometimes, or well, more often, it’s best to just ignore them completely. I do try to avoid them as much as I could until eventually, I can completely ignore them. This isn’t easy when I have to work with these people but in cases where I don’t need to, it’s really not an issue.
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How about you my dear readers? How do you deal with people you don’t like? Feel free to write them on the comment section. I’d be glad to learn from you!
Enjoy the day, homo sapiens!
Reblogged this on WORLD OF CREATIVITY.
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Well, uhhhh, I kinda travel a lot. It doesn’t give me enough time to actually dislike most anyone.
This is a great post!
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Thanks for reading! 🙂 That’s why I envy people who travel a lot, you don’t get to deal with the same people for a very long time, haha! 😉
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
Sometimes you just need to know how to deal with someone who’s not on your “Friend List”!
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Right! 🙂
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Great post like always! I just wanted to let you know that I have nominated you for The Liebster Award 🎉💕You can check it out on my blog and once you make a post on it just let me know. Happy Blogging 😸
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Wow! Thanks a lot, Zovi! 🙂 This is such a sweet way to end my work week! (Weekend here is Friday & Saturday) Thanks a lot! 🙂
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Your welcome! Weekend here is Frida and Saturday too! Hope you have a great day 🌸
Btw where are you from?
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Thank you! 🙂
I’m from the Philippines but I’ve been living here in Kuwait since 2009. I just found out you’re in the UAE. We’re very close! 🙂
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Ohhh wow we’re like neighbors ☺️ I’m also from India but I’ve been born and brought up in UAE.
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I’d be glad to meet you when I visit there one of these days… You staying in Dubai?
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I actually stay in Sharjah. I look forward to meet you.
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🙂 Have a wonderful weekend! 🙂
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Very nice! Wonderful tips! Love the last ditch alternative – just ignore them. Reminds me of the quote I like – “Not everybody likes you, but not everybody matters! LOL!
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Haha! Thanks a lot! 🙂
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Oh thanks! I’m glad to know that! 🙂 Will be checking it out for sure! Happy day! 🙂
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Love this! All so true. And vice versa 😅❤
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😊👍
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So true,, you can’t make everyone happy and you don’t have to. If you vibe with me, cool. If we don’t, it’s ok. We are all different 🤷
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Right! I don’t live my life for people to like me. 😊😊
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🤝
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After some negotiations, it is good to let it go. If I will be the one who will always hold friendship on the safe ground, I don’t need such choice.
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Right! 😃👍
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Yes so true…You just can’t make everyone happy.
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Haha! I don’t intend to make everyone happy! 😂😂😂
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Yupp that’s a good stand…
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I’m only concerned about making myself genuinely happy regardless of how that looks like to other people…😊
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Now that’s a big concern…First things first make self happy.
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Yes! 😊👍
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According to me, Accepting you can’t get along with everyone and ignoring them is the best thing to do!
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Sure! Sometimes (or more often), I’m not really very patient so I just end up ignoring them… 🙂
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Like you, I remind myself that I can’t get on with everyone.
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Right! 🙂
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If wordpress would just let me keep following you!!!!!
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Haha! I bookmarked your blogsite just in case WordPress makes me unfollow you! 🙂
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I don’t know how to bookmark but im loooking it up now
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I really like the last choice. lol Happy week.
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It’s what happens more often…😂😂
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