You

You

I love

most but you

are someone I’m best

without.

Real Neat Award

Good day, homo sapiens! I am doing another blog award post today and it’s the Real Neat Blog Award! This is a first for me and I am so very thankful to Sadje for this! For my blog to be recognized/nominated by other bloggers for awards such as this one certainly gives me great joy! I am flattered/honored to be noticed. Do visit, follow (if you haven’t yet) and enjoy Sadje’s writings on her blog Keep It Alive.

Now let’s get started!

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The rules for the real neat blog award

  1. Display the award logo.
  2. Thank the blogger who nominated you and post a link to their blog.
  3. Answer the questions from the blog who nominated you.
  4. Nominate seven to ten bloggers.
  5. Ask them seven questions.

Sadje’s Questions:

1. Where does blogging fit in your life?

I don’t set a schedule when to write for my blog, I just write whenever I can — a haiku, an elfchen, book reviews or whatever comes to mind then put it on schedule on my blog. I sometimes write when I have free time in the office or when I’m in a coffee shop alone to think and unwind.

2. Have you ever tried to do:

         a) Paragliding?

Yes. I have tried paragliding twice in Georgia and both times were really, really fun and amazing. I will do it again when I get the chance.

         b) Horse riding?

Yes. I started riding horses when I was 8. Fell from a horse when I was 14, didn’t ride it again until I was 20. But since I worked abroad, I didn’t really get the chance to ride again. However, while in Jordan for vacation last 2016, I was able to ride again though only for a very short time.

         c) Deep sea diving?

No. Never. I am not comfortable with water so the idea of trying such and the likes of it is a big no for me.

       3. Do you celebrate your birthday?

Not really but my friends prepare some dinner or get-together on my birthday so they celebrate. Haha! But I personally prefer to just let the day go as any usual day. I do appreciate my friends’ efforts though!

       4. If you have free time at hand, would you go for a walk or a long drive?

A long drive sounds more fun but as I grow older, I prefer going for a walk. It’s more relaxing and I get to think about life and things in general in a better perspective.

       5. Your best friend calls in the middle of the night and asks you to meet them at a deserted place, will you go? BTW, this friend has known to pull pranks!

Yes, I will go. It’s alright to get pranked than to regret in the end that I didn’t go. Who knows, my best friend might have really needed me by her side at that moment, right? So yes, anytime! 🙂

My nominees:

  1. Accidental Blogger
  2. Shweta Suresh
  3. Earthwalking
  4. Elganspo
  5. Mariam Shittu
  6. Ayesha
  7. Chocoviv

My Questions:

  1. As a child, what did you want to be when you grow up?
  2. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  3. What is your favorite holiday?
  4. Which famous person would you like to be best friends with?
  5. What’s the one place you’d really love to travel to?
  6. What is the last book you’ve read?
  7. What’s the most exciting thing in your life right now?

There you have it! Once again, big thanks to Sadje for this nomination. Congratulations to all the nominees, I hope you find time to get to it, I’m so excited to read your answers! And for everyone reading this, consider yourselves nominated, too, or you can answer the questions in the comment section if you want to so feel free, I’d be delighted to read them.

Have a wonderful day, homo sapiens!

Loving Someone We Can’t Have

Perhaps it’s human nature to want something or someone we can’t have. From little things to big ones, sometimes, there’s this something that we want but just can’t have. The same thing goes with people. Let’s be honest, there is (or there was) this someone we’ve been wanting to be with but can’t, right?

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about my crazy heart, it’s that it never gets to choose who to love. Never. It just, well, I don’t know. It just loves. Sometimes we’re lucky to be loved in return but other times, not so. We sometimes get into this sadder kind of love. We fall for people who don’t love us the same way. Or don’t love us at all.

When this sad moment happens to us, our worlds just seem to stop. It cuts us deep.  We feel helpless. Our lives are shattered. Our minds are warped. Our hearts hurt. Our souls in pieces.  So what do we do?

We all have different ways of dealing with matters of the heart like the pain of loving someone we can’t have. I’ve experienced this just once but it took me quite a while to put myself together and get through it. But I did! So I’m sharing it with you and feel free to share yours, too, in the comment section.

Sulk.

Allow yourself to sulk for some time. Feel the pain of that unrequited love. Cry if you must. You can cry only so long then you have to do something else with your time. Acknowledging and feeling the pain is important before you get past it.

Write it down.

Writing every single emotion you feel, even the littlest of feelings, can help you feel better and heal faster, big time! Once you are able to write it all down, you get a clearer picture of what exactly you’re going through.

Acceptance.

Accept the fact that they don’t love you the same way or that they can’t reciprocate the love you have for them. Once you accept that fact, you’re headed to the right path. It would be easier to go on living even when you’re the only one loving them.

Find a hobby.

Find something you love to do and as much as possible, something unrelated to that person. It won’t be very easy to stop your mind from thinking about that person but once you engage yourself deeply in creative or enjoyable hobbies, you gradually become less obsessed with the person and focus your mind elsewhere.

Enjoy whatever time you spend together.

Whatever/However you spend time together, keep in mind to focus on the good times, the good conversations, the good jokes, the good laughs, the good whatevers. Always only the good points. Enjoy the moment and don’t ask for more.

Go on dates with other people.

Since it happened, I haven’t dated anyone so I’m not very sure if this works but perhaps yes because you’ll be focusing your attention on other people. But it’s important to keep in mind not to look for this person from the other person you’re dating. That’s just not fair.

Protect yourself/your feelings.

If I were in this situation two, three years ago or so, I wouldn’t consider being friends with the person. But things change and so do people. So did I. Hence I’d say, it’s okay to be friends with this person. Keep the friendship. Be there for them when they need you without crushing your heart, of course. Be there when they need a helping hand but when things get difficult to handle, tell them or just leave.

Exercise.

Exercising contributes to emotional balance so do some workouts, walk, jog, or run. Play sports. You’d be shooting two birds at the same time — it removes the negativity in your mind and helps you stay fit.

Don’t be angry.

The thing is, I never get to learn how to be angry with this person. And I find that a good thing. So I’d say try to remember all the happy times you’re together, the wonderful times you’ve shared. I personally think there’s no point getting angry at someone because love didn’t grow in their hearts. I’m content and happy that love grew in mine. So be glad, it grew in yours, too.

A Feast for Crows by George R. R. Martin

feast for crowsA Feast for Crows is the fourth book in the series of A Song of Ice and Fire. It tells us the aftermath of the war of the five kings and focuses on the main continent of Westeros. From what I’ve read, the fifth book A Dance of Dragons is this book’s counterpart that takes place at relatively the same time outside of Westeros.

Well, this was the least entertaining among the 4 books I’ve read so far. This introduced a lot of new characters and there were very few of those we’ve known, hated and loved from the previous books. I got bored with the chapters involving the Greyjoys.

I, however, enjoyed Cersei’s chapters for sure. There was a great emphasis on Cersei here that I was really looking forward to her chapters because getting into her head was just so fun. I love her ruthlessness and her chapters were eventful. It makes me sad to think, though, that she won’t probably be in the fifth book as her character was mostly explored here already.

Jaime’s chapters were sympathetic to read. I’ve learned to love Jaime for a long time and it’s sad reading about him searching for places where he could fit in.

It was also nice to read Sansa and Arya’s mirrored plots, having to find themselves in need to take a second identity to survive. It wasn’t really surprising to find Arya in this situation but Sansa? As we know, these two sisters have very different personalities. But seeing how both of them are surviving in sort of the same way, they really are more alike as sisters after all.

I find the entertaining part of the book lost for me (except for Cersei’s chapters) but if viewed as a whole series, this is still a good read with George R.R. Martin’s established tradition — a book immensely rich in detail and extremely clever complexity. I am still determined to finish reading to the end. I’ve invested enough time to make it this far, why stop now?

Quotable Quotes:

“My old grandmother always used to say, Summer friends will melt away like summer snows, but winter friends are friends forever.”

“History is a wheel, for the nature of man is fundamentally unchanging. What has happened before will perforce happen again”

“We all dream of things we cannot have.”

“Men have scars, women mysteries.”

“Sometimes there is no happy choice… only one less grievous than the others.”

Rating: 4/5 stars

 

 

Quote of the Week

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.

~Agnes Repplier

WWW Wednesday (23-Oct-2019)

Hello there! Welcome to WWW Wednesday, hosted by Sam from Taking On A World of Words. Just answer the three W questions:

  1. What did you recently finish reading?
  2. What are you currently reading?
  3. What do you think you’ll read next?

You can leave a link of your post in the comments section so I and other readers can check it out.

Recently Finished:

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I’ve finished Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant and I liked it. I think it was the right choice as an introduction to Anne Tyler’s works for me. I’m looking forward to more.

Currently Reading:

I’ve finally started with A Dance with Dragons and what a delight to start with Tyrion’s chapter! I’ve also started with A Monster Calls during my coffee break yesterday. Both books started quite good.

Up Next:

I’m still not sure what to read next since A Dance with Dragons is a lengthy read and I don’t have much time to read these days. I am considering The Russian Concubine, though.

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By the way, I have also recently reviewed Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe. You can check it out here. I’m always late with my reviews but I’ll add them here from now on whenever I get to write something.

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How about you? What’s on your WWW this week? Drop a link on the comment box, I’d be very delighted to read them all!

Happy reading, homo sapiens! 🙂