Some steps need to be taken alone. It’s the only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be.
I believe that kindness is the universal language. When someone does something kind it is understood despite language barriers or cultural differences. We should really communicate with kindness more often.
All change is not growth, just as all movement is not forward.
I guess I’m trying to say, grab anything that goes by. It may not come around again.
Unless you know who you are, you will always be vulnerable to what people say.
It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
~Henry David Thoreau
We are products of our past but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.
You can never really go back to the same waters. Not only are you no longer the same, but neither are the waters you left. The current has changed. The elements of nature have affected the stream. When you return, although it appears the same, it really is a different river and you are a different person. Therefore, you cannot cross the same river twice.
Don’t run from lessons; they are little packages of treasure that have been given to us. As we learn from them, our lives change for the better.
What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.
Sometimes being offered tenderness feels like the very proof that you’ve been ruined.
Sometimes when you’re in a dark place you think you’ve been buried but you’ve actually been planted.
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.
Time can be a greedy thing — sometimes it steals the details for itself.
There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it. Otherwise you’ll never understand what it’s saying.
Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.
~Roy T. Bennett
Hope can be a powerful force. Maybe there’s no actual magic in it, but when you know what you hope for most and hold it like a light within you, you can make things happen, almost like magic.
It’s amazing how a little tomorrow can make up for a whole lot of yesterday.
There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice.
~F. Scott Fitzgerald
Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.
People are icebergs, with just a bit you can see and loads you can’t.
One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way as someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in the world. If you’re lucky enough to find this person, never let them go.
Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
Experience is the teacher of all things.
I love the fact that I can make people happy, in any form. Even if it’s just an hour of their lives, if I can make them feel lucky or make them feel good, or bring a smile to a sour face, that to me is worthwhile.
Feelings come and feelings go. There is no need to fear them and no need to crave them. Be open to your feelings and experience them while they are here. Then be open to the feelings that will come next. Your feelings are a part of your experience. Yet no mere feeling, however intense it may seem, is your permanent reality.
When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something
bigger and better than your current situation.
There comes a point when you either embrace who and what you are, or condemn yourself to be miserable all your days. Other people will try to make you miserable; don’t help them by doing the job yourself.
~Laurell K. Hamilton
The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.
Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.
Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.
~Roy T. Bennett
If you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down on you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.
The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.
Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart. Be the one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.
~Marvin J. Ashton
To be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, in the right way – that is not easy.
You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.
Who can remember pain once it’s over? All that remains of it is a shadow, not in the mind even, in the flesh. Pain marks you, but too deep to see.
When one has a grateful heart, life is so beautiful.
~Roy T. Bennett
The way sadness works is one of the strange riddles of the world. If you are stricken with a great sadness, you may feel as if you have been set aflame, not only because of the enormous pain, but also because your sadness may spread over your life, like smoke from an enormous fire. You might find it difficult to see anything but your own sadness, the way smoke can cover a landscape so that all anyone can see is black. You may find that if someone pours water all over you, you are damp and distracted, but not cured of your sadness, the way a fire department can douse a fire but never recover what has been burnt down.
Maybe we all have darkness inside of us and some of us are better at dealing with it than others.
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
Pure love for another person, and what people call romantic love, are two different things. Pure love doesn’t manipulate the relationship to one’s advantage, but romantic love is different. Romantic love contains other elements—the desire to be loved by the other person, for instance. If purely loving another was enough, you wouldn’t suffer because of unrequited love. As long as the other person was happy, there wouldn’t be any need to suffer because you weren’t being loved in return. What makes people suffer is the desire to be loved by another person. So I decided that romantic love and pure love for a person are not the same. And that by following this you could lessen the pain of unrequited love.~Haruki Murakami
Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.
No person has the power to have everything they want, but it is in their power not to want what they don’t have, and to cheerfully put to good use what they do have.
You’re not a bad person because you want to be yourself.
Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first.