Good friends are there when you need them. Fair-weather friends are only there when they need you. But it’s really nice to have the friends who are there when there’s really no need at all.
How do you murder friendship, kinship or any kind of relationships the fastest way?
Betrayal is the fastest relationship killer. It can manifest in different ways, in different forms, in different acts, in different relationships, in different individuals. How people take advantage of other people for their own benefit at the expense of other people’s feelings, I don’t really understand. What’s worse about it is that,
“The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.”
Yes, betrayal never comes from our enemies but from our friends, our colleagues, from people we love, from people who mean something to us, from people we trust. I can attest to that.
We all probably have experienced betrayal at least once in our lives. All of us have our own personal Judas perhaps. And when it happens, the sting of the betrayal often leaves us appalled, hurt, broken and maybe clueless and unable how to move forward from that point on. On the other hand, the traitors will deny the act and even convince us that we misunderstood them. Moreover, many of these traitors would even justify their acts of betrayal.
Whatever relationship we have with the person who betrayed us, it often leaves us hurt and wounded deeply. We let our guards down whenever we start to be comfortable with people and we often realize it too late. As I grow in my understanding of relationships of any kind, those who love you or adore you at one point, can or will reject you any other day. People see things from different perspectives and we unintentionally disappoint each other sometimes.
Moreover, it hurts to know that you were betrayed because they can gain more from betraying you rather than staying true to you. Why would anyone do that for momentary benefit or comfort? I don’t know. What I do know, though, is that they’ve lost more than they know. They’ve lost more than what they thought they’ve gained.
It’s sad that this had to happen. I probably appear weak to them that they took advantage of it and I won’t be able to trust them once more. I’m in a place where as far as I’m concerned, there’s no point in trying again. Nothing ruins a relationship more than the realization that you can’t trust these people any longer. It’s an irreparable harm but something to learn from.
Day 2 of the Three Days, Three Quotes Challenge. Thanks again, Shreya!
- Thank the person who nominated you.
- Post a quote for three consecutive days.
- Nominate three other bloggers each day.
Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.
Happy Tuesday, homo sapiens!
I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations. If we don’t vibrate in the same frequency, there’s just no reason for us to waste our time. I’d rather have no one and wait for substance than to not feel someone and fake the funk.