Slowly learning how to quit you.
Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.
Hearing your name is still heartbreaking.
When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let go. Surrender all attachments to people and things that you have been struggling to hold on to.
Trusting too much sometimes kills you.
Sorry won’t fix my broken heart.
Ironic ain’t it?
I’ve learned love from people who
never once loved me.
He held my body, not me.
For your sake and mine… goodbye.
In the end there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you. There just has to be someone who wants to.
Day after day I
waited. All I had was a
cold dreadful silence.
Comparing yourself to others is deadly.
Whatever we are
now, I’ll always remember
the way we once were.
I miss my misconceptions of you…
He’s not coming back. Stop waiting.
I just want to pull away from people once in a while…
I’m fixing you while breaking myself.
Happy ending? When we finally ended.
I should’ve left it at hello.
Sometimes, there are no second chances.
Other people are going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.
I can feel you slipping away.
How can it be that
this emptiness inside me
could feel so heavy?
How they left, it always stays.
Don’t be in such a hurry to condemn a person because he doesn’t do what you do, or think as you think. There was a time when you didn’t know what you know today.
Sometimes people think doing nothing is boring. Sometimes though, it's peace.
When all you have left
are memories, let all of
them be beautiful.
I was almost convinced I mattered.
People have scars in all sorts of unexpected places like secret road maps of their personal histories, diagrams of all their old wounds. Most of our old wounds heal leaving nothing behind but a scar. But some of them don’t. Some wounds we carry with us everywhere and though the cut’s long gone, the pain still lingers.
-Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy
The world is full of traitors.
Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
Because of you I’ve
learned why it’s essential for
me to know the night.
It’s funny how you’re
dead to me now. You’re someone
I would’ve died for then…
I sometimes wonder
what is it you hear in the
silence between us?
Here's more: These snakes don't hiss. They talk.
Everyone eventually breaks at some point.
There are far too many silent sufferers. Not because they don't yearn to reach out, but because they've tried and found no one who cares. -Richelle E. Goodrich
I didn't expect to like this book because self-help stuffs don't usually appeal to me but this one's good.
Man's Search for Meaning is divided into two parts.
The first part speaks of the extreme suffering the author himself, Viktor E. Frankl and his inmates, endured in Nazi concentration camps. He survived no less than four camps and described various stages and situations he and his fellow prisoners have been through and turned his experiences and observations of how they respond in times of adversity into a psychological study. He didn't at all consider the importance of chance or even luck to his survival.
The second part is basically an introduction to logotherapy. Using his observations and experiences while in the camps, he lays out his ideas/theories. The very core of it is a will to meaning, contrary to that of Freud which is will to pleasure or that of Adler which is will to power. He tells us that there are a lot of possible meaning of life and that it can change from day to day, from time to time, from one individual to another — a task we must frequently undertake.
According to logotherapy, we can discover this meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.
Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual. These tasks, and therefore the meaning of life, differ from man to man, and from moment to moment. Thus it is impossible to define the meaning of life in a general way.
It's a short and engaging book, it may even make you see things or life differently. Life ought to have meaning and I admire Frankl's view of it as well as his view on what joy we can derive through acceptance of our sufferings. I think it's pretty extraordinary that he was able to explore and study what must have been the darkest period of his life, he seemed like a heck of a man to do so without bitterness.
Recommended to everyone. Solid choice for anyone facing adversity or anyone who simply wants to reflect on the content and direction of the life they're leading.
Rating : 4/5 stars
Quotable Quotes :
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way."
"Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true."
"Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible."
"No man should judge unless he asks himself in absolute honesty whether in a similar situation he might not have done the same."
"A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the why for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any how."
It is very frustrating not to be understood in this world. If you say one thing and keep being told that you mean something else, it can make you want to scream. But somewhere in the world there is a place for all of us.
I miss your arms around me.
And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does, too.
It’s so easy to love someone when everything’s perfect and wonderful. When everything is going right, when everything go the way you want them to. But some days, things get difficult, mistakes are made, things are messed up, things aren’t perfect. It’s during these days that we see how much love there really is.
Sure, anyone can love someone who do all the right things and say the words we want to hear. Anyone can love someone who are being everything you want or need. But how about loving someone when they’re at their lowest? When they’re broken, when they’re lost? When they’re at their worst? It would really be a very good thing to have someone who is willing and happy to stand with you no matter how challenging things may get or how difficult you might be.
And I think that’s the more beautiful and meaningful kind of love there is…
Often it is the most deserving people who cannot help loving those who destroy them.
I saved you. You killed me.
It’s my fault, I trusted you.
What could be worse than
the people you love?
At an early age I learned that people make mistakes, and you have to decide if their mistakes are bigger than your love for them.
Missing someone who was never mine.
When a person tells you you hurt them, you don’t get to decide you didn’t.