Communicate even when it’s not easy.
Whatever we are
now, I’ll always remember
the way we once were.
We always learn something from pain.
This is a much delayed response to Ocean Hayward but I’m still very grateful for this Liebster Award! Wow! Another Liebster just means so much. This is so sweet! Thanks a lot, Ocean! Visit her blog and find lots of great things there! 🙂
The instructions for accepting the Liebster are:
- Create a new post thanking the person who nominated you, link their blog and insert the award graphic.
- Answer the questions provided to you, share a little bit about yourself.
- Develop a new set of questions for your nominations to answer.
- Nominate 10 others and share your post with them so they see it.
So… here are her questions and my answers:
What advice would you give to young writers/ new bloggers?
Oh I don’t think I’m the right person to give advice to young writers/new bloggers. I’m a newbie, too! 😊
How did you learn how to read and write? I honestly don’t remember a time trying to learn how to read/write, really. What I can recall is that I always read with my older brother most of the time.
What made you want to start writing/ creating? There was a really sad time when I was still in grade school and writing served as the outlet for my feelings/emotions. I’m able to write when I’m feeling too much.
If you had to switch jobs, what career would you pursue and why? I’ve always wanted to be a lawyer and politician. I think I can lead and I have a brilliant plan on how to improve the current situation in my country. (Haha!)
Would you rather be able to move things with your mind or be able to talk to animals? Even though being able to talk to animals sounds fun to me, I guess I’d rather be able to move things with my mind. I’ve got some ideas running in my head already. 😉
What is the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever done? Hmmm… I think peeing on the rooftop because I was drunk and lazy to go to the bathroom. (?)
Referring to the television show Freaks and Geeks, when you were in high school were you a freak or a geek? A freak definitely.
Name one fashion fad that you secretly still love and are waiting for it to come back into style. I really liked to wear Tretorn shoes before but I don’t see them nowadays (well, I don’t see them here…) but I would love to wear one again specially the ones I used to have back in high school.
Your first thought that comes to mind when someone mentions, “Canada.” Snow and the maple leaf. 🙂
Tell us about the funniest thing that ever happened ever. EVER. (I mean it. Ever.) I once locked my classmates and the teacher inside the classroom when I was in 5th grade. They weren’t able to go out until lunch break and I later found out that some were crying and going crazy being locked up. It’s probably scary for them but was really funny for me because I’ve never done anything like that before and I’m not sure why I did it but it was real fun at the time. And oh! My teacher’s face when she saw me later, pure pleasure! 😀
Now the Liebster awardees are :
- A Not so Jaded Life
- Seema Mehra
- Lunarian Thoughts
- Priti C
- Elma Shakil
And the 10 questions they’ve got to answer :
- What do you think about first thing in the morning?
- What’s your personal heaven?
- When God asks you while standing in the gates of heaven why should He let you in, what would you say?
- What do you do to forget about life for a while?
- Have you ever taken responsibility over someone else’s mistake?
- What bad habits do you want to break?
- What terrifies you the most?
- What comes to mind first when you think of your home?
- If one day Karma comes back to you, would it help you or hurt you?
- What were you doing the last time you lost track of time?
Looking forward to your answers! Thanks again, Ocean!
Happy day, homo sapiens!
I didn’t change, my priorities did.
Honor the space between no longer and not yet.
I miss my misconceptions of you…
Behind her smile, a broken heart.
Social media has made it possible for people to become friends to anyone around the globe merely through the click of a button. I think it’s generally a good thing. My need for friendship isn’t too much but once I decide to build one, I intend to make it genuine as much as I can. Somehow, maintaining friendships can be hard work but so worth it at the same time because our friendships are one of the most influential and essential parts of our life. Recently, I’ve been pondering quite often about my friends and friendships. The friends worth keeping and friendships worth saving. The fact of the matter is that, my social circle is quite noticeably shrinking. I don’t see that as a bad thing. I actually think I quite understand now what they mean with “less is more” and “quality over quantity.”
I first arrived in Kuwait on the 1st of March, 2009. I have a variety of friends back home but very few real ones. They’re some of the best people I’ve met. The kind of friends for keeps. A few weeks since, my friendships have changed a lot. I’ve met different people of different nationalities. Most of the friendships/connections built were situational. Most needed context to make sense. Some stayed longer while some had a shorter shelf life. I still do wish them well now but I don’t intend to reconnect. Luckily, I also get to meet a few that didn’t need any context but exist in any given situation, people who are always there during my ups and downs, stayed during my best and my worst days, the type that lasts.
Several times, I let go of a few friends while a few others let go of me as well. I didn’t think I was being selfish to let go of them just like that but mind you, it wasn’t always easy to put an end to it. However, given the world we live in and the values instilled in us, I knew it was necessary.
A couple of years afterwards, two of my closest friends abruptly ended our friendship. I first received a message from one of them telling me never to call her again and a few days later, I received pretty much the same message from the other. Sure I’ve made mistakes and dealt with things the wrong way. We had misunderstandings at times which is pretty normal in any relationships but why they suddenly wanted to end the friendship, until now, I still don’t fully understand.
Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did.
My heart ached. It really did. Breaking up with friends is just as painful as any other relationship break-ups there is. So after months of failing to know how I’ve wronged them, I stopped. I thought maybe knowing the answer may not satisfy me just the same and I don’t want to drive myself crazy thinking why. I just finally allowed the hurt to help me grow. It was sure a painful way to end an almost decade of friendship but I’ve decided to just let go and move on. I still sometimes think of them though and wonder, did they give up easily on me? Or did I give up easily on them?
I love my friends, really, I do. Friends are one of the most beautiful gifts of being alive. They help shape our lives one way or the other. They cheer, support, help and see the best in each other. Friendships that have depth and true understanding is one among the essential elements of a blessed life. And I feel blessed to have a handful of them. Interestingly enough, some of us drifted apart at some point for some reasons, both inevitable and necessary, but later found each other again and our bonds became stronger. Sadly though, not all our friends give us that good effect. Some lie. Some betray. Then it’s difficult to rebuild trust and loyalty once again. So sometimes it’s better that they end. And a lot of my friendships are meeting its end nowadays.
Whichever and however way we choose our friends/friendships, I think it’s vital that we offer a meaning in each other’s lives. It’s nice to think that we fulfill them and they fulfill us. My friends mean something to me in different ways and play different roles in my life. I do appreciate, value and respect each one of them. Be that as it may, I personally don’t find any reason to work on a friendship that leaves me unfulfilled. More so, friendships out of habit or obligation. That’s just not fair and friendships are voluntary so I think there’s nothing wrong in ending friendships that doesn’t suit you in a positive way anymore.
Sometimes, too, we just outgrow our friends. At some point we realize that they’re not good for us because they bring us down or whittle at our confidence every so often. Some friendships evolve with us, but some do not. I will not apologize for evolving closer to my true self and evolving past their comfort zones. We change as we age and grow. So I think it’s just right to let go of such friendships and accept that it’s over.
Other times, too, we have this friend who always swings the conversation back towards him/herself and has no interest in what we have to say. I’ve met a number of them kind and I just avoid them as much as I could and luckily, they themselves stop talking to me, too.
Moreover, there’s betrayal. As it is with all kinds of relationships, nothing could murder friendships faster than betrayal. It hurts a lot to be betrayed. It hurts all the more to end a friendship because of betrayal. I no longer see any point of saving a friendship when one betrays the other.
From time to time, psychological or emotional issues also become reasons why friends drift apart. It’s important that we maintain everything balanced in our friendships. Support for each other. Will to help in making each other better. Give and take. Trust. Unfortunately, there are times when this factors shift its balance and no longer serve one or the other in a worthwhile, beneficial, balanced or positive way. One typical example is a change in fortune among friends. The manner how we deal with situations like this isn’t always the same, thus, causing friends to drift apart. Where envy or jealousy didn’t exist before starts to gradually emerge. It’s nice to have friends who are always there when we are at our worst but I just don’t get them when they leave us in times when our fate changes for the better. (More of this on another entry.) So I suppose, it all boils down to who we pick as friends in the first place.
I’ve also met a lot of people who just befriend you because they need you. We don’t usually see this right away at the beginning of friendships but eventually, it shows. They take, take, take. And you give, give, give. Then they leave you. They build it when they need it, and break it when they don’t.
Here’s the thing, it is important to always try our best to see things from different perspectives before we make rush judgments whether to still keep these friends or completely cut our ties with them. After all, we all make mistakes. Some of us (myself included) don’t like to rely on anyone for anything to get us through life’s hardships but perhaps there’s nothing wrong in giving the friendship a second chance, be a bit forgiving and understanding maybe, because throwing away a friendship can’t be that easy. Every kind of friendship adds something to our lives, good or bad, it’s just up to us how we are going to let it affect us.